compulsivity, continuation despite consequences, and obsession are three criteria which have been put forth by researchers to define this condition. individuals afflicted may suffer from obsessive-compulsive disorder, narcissistic or histrionic personality disorders, or manic-depressiveness.

patrick carnes laid out the following four steps to sexual addiction (source wikipedia):

  1. “I am basically a bad, unworthy person.”
  2. “No one would love me as I am.”
  3. “My needs are never going to be met if I have to depend on others.”
  4. “Sex is my most important need.”

the behavior is commonly brought on by unresolved feelings of shame, anger or unresolved conflict. this ritualized, life-interrupting need for sexual conquest is an attempt to resolve these feelings in an unhealthy way.

anyway, thanks for letting me bring this insidious, tough-to-confront problem to your attention

it’s the least i could do